Couples Therapy
in New York
Reconnect and heal together
Are you ready to take the next step together?
In couples therapy, you will grow compassion and understanding by learning more about how the past impacts each of your presents and ability to connect.
Couples Therapy can help you reconnect with your loved one and bring back the spark from when you first met
Do you find yourselves in an unhelpful cycle full of blame, defensiveness, and criticism? Do you feel unheard in your relationship and no matter what you seem to try, you are having trouble communicating? Do you feel so disconnected that you look at your partner and feel that you don't even know them, and also that they don't know you anymore?
Perhaps your sex life is no longer satisfying. Maybe you used to feel a spark, but now sex feels more like a chore than a source of pleasure and connection. Maybe you struggle to find common ground and shared interests. You seem to have lost sight of why you two were together in the first place.
Do you notice that your pasts, both individually and as a couple, seems to keep coming back up? As if, you are on a vicious carousel of hurt and pain?
No matter what you try, the same fight keeps happening. The same pain keeps happening.
You don’t have to feel this way anymore. Its time to try something different.
Through Couples Therapy, we will work together to learn more about each of your individual pasts, your relationship history, and how all of that is impacting your current ability to connect. I will create a space for both of you to be heard, feel understood, and share. We will explore your dynamic, what makes you turn towards and support one another, and what makes you turn away and put your walls up. I'll help you slow down the cycle that has become second nature and discover and work through new ways of interacting. Through this process you will grow compassion and understanding for one another while feeling heard by your partner.
We can reignite that spark that you once had for each other. In addition to taking a look at communication patterns and dynamics, we will also explore connection. We will look at how you both give and receive love and what each of your dreams and desires are.
Through communication exercises, intentionally working through conflict rather than avoiding it, and growing understanding for each other, you will once again feel connected and like a partnership.
How Couples Therapy Can Help You
Increase compassion and understanding
Learn communication skills - both how to speak and listen!
Learn emotion regulation skills
Break the cycle of unhelpful family dynamics and patterns
Reduce depression
Reduce anxiety
Explore and learn to set boundaries
Learn to communicate your emotions, wants, and needs
Increase connection
I will help you become a better listener, better communicator, and a better partner.
Frequently Asked Questions about Couples Therapy in New York
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Lea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and operates from a systems perspective. This means that she prioritizes understanding each of you as individuals, so she can understand how you connect and also how you trigger each other. In session #1, the therapist and couples will meet. You will go over hopes, goals, and Lea will get to know you as a couple. Sessions #2 and #3 are individually oriented. This is so Lea can understand each of you, your life lenses, and past dynamics. Sessions #4 and on will be interactive, and Lea will interject, offer validation, model compassion, and make suggestions on how to better communicate to hear and be heard.
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Yes. Video sessions are conducted via a HIPAA compliant, confidential, platform. You will have the same level of privacy, confidentiality, and HIPAA security as in person sessions.
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Couples therapy is hard. It is work. This is a space that will be challenging and can also be incredibly rewarding. Prior experience in individual therapy can be helpful in having learned self reflection and emotional regulation skills, though it is not necessary. Remember, your couples therapist will always be on the side of the couple.
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Due to the power imbalances apparent in relationships where there is domestic violence, couples therapy is counter-indicated, meaning it will not be helpful. Instead, consider trauma therapy or relationship therapy for individuals. If you are wondering if you are in a relationship with domestic violence, please check out this blog for more information.
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Complete the contact form to schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation. Lea will respond within 24 hours to schedule a call to make sure she’s a good fit for your needs.